Are You ready/Willing to say goodbye to the streets and say hello to “for better or for worse”? Congratulations! But before you start practicing your dance moves for the wedding day, Here’s 10 Important guide to help you find and keep a good Wife or Husband.
1) Firstly, Be a Good Person Yourself
Before looking for “Mr. or Mrs. Right,” ask yourself: Would I marry me?
If your answer is “hmmm… maybe after some upgrades,” then start there. Be kind, responsible, emotionally stable (or trying), honest and God fearing. Good people attract good people.
2) Look Beyond the Surface
Yes, beauty and swags are good. But can they hold a conversation? Solve problems without drama? Wash plates or cook? Change a flat tire?
Long-term love needs depth, not just vibes. Look for values, character, and how they treat others especially waiters/waitress, their parents and reasonable elders.
3) Don’t Rush Even When You’re Under Pressure
“Your mates are married with two kids!”
Ignore that noise. Marriage is not a race or competition. It’s better to arrive late with the right partner than to run early into the wrong one and regret it forever.
4) Test Them in Real Life
Vacations and dinner dates are great. But how do they act when there’s no light for two days? Or when plans change suddenly?
Real-life situations expose real personalities. Don’t ignore red flags like disrespect, controlling behavior, No tolerance or zero empathy.
5) Pray and Pay Attention
This depends on your faith, but many people believe prayer is the key and gives wisdom. Still, don’t just pray,pay attention too. If they’re sweet during prayer but rude after prayer, think deep or better run!
6) Ask The Right Questions
Forget about questions like “what’s your favorite color?”,’Whats your favourite movie”
Ask:
1)How do you handle money?
2) What do you want in a family?
3) Do you believe in gender roles or shared roles?
These things matter more than you think.
7) Meet Their People
You don’t just marry a man or woman, you marry their background, their mindset, and sometimes mother-in-law.
Meeting their family and friends gives you more light about their upbringing and personality.
8) See How They Handle Disagreements
Anyone can be sweet when things are going well. But when there’s conflict, do they insult, ghost, or try to fix things?
Maturity shows up when things don’t go the way we wish. Remember man proposes, God opposes.
9) Avoid Marrying Potential
Don’t marry someone for who you hope they’ll become. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them. This difference can include a varities of things such as Habits,Hygiene, Communication Skills, Financial difference e.t.c.
10) Be Realistic – Not Just Romantic
Marriage isn’t always roses and breakfast in bed. Sometimes it’s dealing with morning breath, bills, or differing opinions.
Choose someone you can build a life with, not just a wedding with.
Summary:
Finding a good husband or wife isn’t magic. It’s a mix of wisdom, patience, and clarity. Don’t let loneliness, pressure, or social media highlights rush you into a lifetime mistake.
Marry someone who brings peace, not just butterflies.
Because butterflies will eventually fly away, but peace Stays.
